My younger son, Nick, turned 35 on August 9. How can that be? I know many of us say this:"I remember his birth (or whatever the event was) like it was yesterday". Jeez. I recall my grandmother saying things like that. I would smile and perhaps roll my eyes never really understanding the concept of a great deal of time passing and recalling an event with amazement.
My older son, Anthony, died almost 4 years ago. He would've been 41in December.
Is that possible and still feel as though I have many, many wonderful, active, fruitful years left? Of course, it is.
My sister's only child, Michael, is 40. Saturday, I took my son Nick to the San Francisco Giant's game for his birthday and, coincidentally, Michael was chosen by his boss to throw out the first pitch at that game! What a memory making opportunity it was for him. And for us to share in that thrill.
Michael and Anthony were only 6 1/2 weeks apart and were more like brothers than cousins growing up. Anthony walked first, Michael was right behind him. And yes, I remember those days like it was yesterday. Nick came along 5 1/2 years later - yup, just like yesterday.
I'm in California right now. My son, Nick, lives in San Francisco, my sister and my nephew and his wife live in Marin as do friends I've had for 40 years and counting. Those 40 years have literally flown by.
I reunited with my high school sweetheart, who is my husband now, six years ago and the first day we reconnected seems like a heartbeat ago.
As you have also have experienced, as we age, time simply goes by in a flash. Again, I love my life, am grateful for all the good and the not so good, as it has gotten me where I am today. I'm pleased with the woman I've become and I plan on doing a whole lot more - including giving back, traveling, excelling at my favorite new sport - pickleball, creating more art and sharing my love with everyone who crosses my path.
xo
Thursday, August 15, 2019
Thursday, August 8, 2019
Making and Nurturing New Friendships
This past year has been filled with new relationships. It's an unexpected windfall at this age.
As I've written previously, making friends after one retires can be difficult, especially after retiring and moving to a new community in another state.
My first few years in Arizona were missing that girlfriend we all need. After living in California for over 40 years I had developed and nurtured quite a few wonderful friends and leaving them was difficult. Fortunately, for me I keep an apartment in Marin County and am able to visit every month or two.
My husband introduced me to his friends and their wives, however, our friendship outside of being "couples" didn't develop. They were already well established in AZ and had friends, or several still worked and others were not that near to our neighborhood.
Fortunately, 2 1/2 years after moving to AZ I met my dear friend Shannon and she has been such a gift. I don't know what I would've done if we hadn't met and become fast friends.
As I alluded to in my opening, the past year has been filled to overflowing with new friends and acquaintances. One of the reasons for this has been because I stepped outside of my comfort zone and got involved in new activities.
I have met and become friends with a wonderful group of women due to my pickle ball activities. We all took lessons through our local Park & Rec and exchanged phone numbers and now we are playing as often as we can, and that is usually three or more times a week for some of us. We are all about the same age give or take a few years and having this crazy love for this sport has bonded us. A few ladies outside of Park & Rec have joined us and they fit in perfectly, too. I must say, I am so thrilled to have this group that has made my life fuller and happier.
There are two additional friendships I have made that came about because of friends on the East Coast. Both of my new friends recently moved to Arizona, one from Florida and the other from New York. My older friends introduced them to me - one via a phone call and the other in person. I feel so lucky that these women have come into my life and I hope our friendships develop and I can add to their lives, as well.
What a wonderful surprise to have these new friends - such a gift!
xo
As I've written previously, making friends after one retires can be difficult, especially after retiring and moving to a new community in another state.
My first few years in Arizona were missing that girlfriend we all need. After living in California for over 40 years I had developed and nurtured quite a few wonderful friends and leaving them was difficult. Fortunately, for me I keep an apartment in Marin County and am able to visit every month or two.
My husband introduced me to his friends and their wives, however, our friendship outside of being "couples" didn't develop. They were already well established in AZ and had friends, or several still worked and others were not that near to our neighborhood.
Fortunately, 2 1/2 years after moving to AZ I met my dear friend Shannon and she has been such a gift. I don't know what I would've done if we hadn't met and become fast friends.
As I alluded to in my opening, the past year has been filled to overflowing with new friends and acquaintances. One of the reasons for this has been because I stepped outside of my comfort zone and got involved in new activities.
I have met and become friends with a wonderful group of women due to my pickle ball activities. We all took lessons through our local Park & Rec and exchanged phone numbers and now we are playing as often as we can, and that is usually three or more times a week for some of us. We are all about the same age give or take a few years and having this crazy love for this sport has bonded us. A few ladies outside of Park & Rec have joined us and they fit in perfectly, too. I must say, I am so thrilled to have this group that has made my life fuller and happier.
There are two additional friendships I have made that came about because of friends on the East Coast. Both of my new friends recently moved to Arizona, one from Florida and the other from New York. My older friends introduced them to me - one via a phone call and the other in person. I feel so lucky that these women have come into my life and I hope our friendships develop and I can add to their lives, as well.
What a wonderful surprise to have these new friends - such a gift!
xo
Thursday, August 1, 2019
Are Chores Getting in the Way?
In a previous post I wrote about how I love to read however, it never seems as though there's enough time for it. How can this be since I'm retired?
Here's the situation: I arise most mornings at 5:15 so I can (or try to) fit in everything I want to do. I begin with my morning meditation that takes about 20 minutes. Then it's time to get ready for my exercise and at least three days a week that means pickleball (I've become addicted). There is a group of us that meets at the local YMCA at 6:30 a.m. where we set up the net and play for about 2 hours, sometimes more. On the other days I either hike/walk or hit the gym early, especially in summer when temperatures in Arizona surpass 100 degrees by late morning.
When I return from whatever exercise I chose that day, it's time to caffeine up and have a bite of breakfast. By this time it's mid-to-late morning and chores have begun - generally a load of wash, wiping the kitchen counters, sprucing up the bathrooms, making beds, etc., etc. Even with a house cleaner every few weeks there is always so much to be done (especially with a hairy Golden Retriever as part of our family).
Once or twice a week there's a run to the supermarket for a big shopping and a follow-up smaller shopping, perhaps a run to Costco or Target - you know the routine.
By the time all of these responsibilities are completed there may be some time in the afternoon for a bit of reading before dinner must be started. But, never enough time to satisfy me! Don't get me wrong, I have a wonderful life, a sweet (though not very tidy) husband, and am blessed with good health, wonderful friends and a loving family- still I'd like a few more hours in the day to take part in all the activities I love. And I haven't even mentioned taking in an afternoon movie occasionally, or meeting a friend for lunch.
Yes, those darn chores are always there waiting for me. That is something I can bet on. However, as I've said - life is good and I am so grateful.
xo
Here's the situation: I arise most mornings at 5:15 so I can (or try to) fit in everything I want to do. I begin with my morning meditation that takes about 20 minutes. Then it's time to get ready for my exercise and at least three days a week that means pickleball (I've become addicted). There is a group of us that meets at the local YMCA at 6:30 a.m. where we set up the net and play for about 2 hours, sometimes more. On the other days I either hike/walk or hit the gym early, especially in summer when temperatures in Arizona surpass 100 degrees by late morning.
When I return from whatever exercise I chose that day, it's time to caffeine up and have a bite of breakfast. By this time it's mid-to-late morning and chores have begun - generally a load of wash, wiping the kitchen counters, sprucing up the bathrooms, making beds, etc., etc. Even with a house cleaner every few weeks there is always so much to be done (especially with a hairy Golden Retriever as part of our family).
Once or twice a week there's a run to the supermarket for a big shopping and a follow-up smaller shopping, perhaps a run to Costco or Target - you know the routine.
By the time all of these responsibilities are completed there may be some time in the afternoon for a bit of reading before dinner must be started. But, never enough time to satisfy me! Don't get me wrong, I have a wonderful life, a sweet (though not very tidy) husband, and am blessed with good health, wonderful friends and a loving family- still I'd like a few more hours in the day to take part in all the activities I love. And I haven't even mentioned taking in an afternoon movie occasionally, or meeting a friend for lunch.
Yes, those darn chores are always there waiting for me. That is something I can bet on. However, as I've said - life is good and I am so grateful.
xo
Thursday, July 25, 2019
My Most Recent Reads
I love to read. Always have. And I am one of those odd (so I've been told) people who have several books going at once. I am always reading a novel, a self-development book, one on sobriety, something spiritual and at times, I add a book on physical fitness that has caught my attention.
The physical fitness book I'm currently reading is Becoming Ageless by Strauss Zelnick. He is a very successful CEO who changed his lifestyle and his body by changing both his diet and his workout. Very inspiring, though I must say that at my age I have no intention of working out as hard as he does. Though, I have been motivated to increase my muscle strengthening workout.
The spiritual/self-development/sobriety book (this one book covers all areas) I'm reading (re-reading actually) is The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod, Anna David and Joe Polish. This is the book that changed my morning routine almost one year ago and I'm still following today. The book is chock full of great tips, ideas and motivation thus the re-reading of it.
Another spiritual book I peruse when I need a pick-me-up is The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer. Again, another book I've had for several years and never fails to exhilarate me.
The fiction I'm reading is A Man Called Ove by Fredrik Bachman about a curmudgeon of a man and his attitude and musings on life and people. I've just begun it and am enjoying it.
The novel that I just finished is Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine by Gail Honeyman. Eleanor is a quirky woman and has been compared to a young, female version of Ove, the curmudgeon. She is quite a character and the book follows her journey. At times she was frustrating and naive but precious.
The fiction I read prior to this is Less by Andrew Greer. Another interesting and complicated individual. I loved the ending! (I'm a sucker for happy endings).
That is a peek into my reading at the moment. I'm always up for something new and interesting. My problem is, finding the time. Even a retired woman has difficulty finding time for reading - but that's another post!
xo
The physical fitness book I'm currently reading is Becoming Ageless by Strauss Zelnick. He is a very successful CEO who changed his lifestyle and his body by changing both his diet and his workout. Very inspiring, though I must say that at my age I have no intention of working out as hard as he does. Though, I have been motivated to increase my muscle strengthening workout.
The spiritual/self-development/sobriety book (this one book covers all areas) I'm reading (re-reading actually) is The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod, Anna David and Joe Polish. This is the book that changed my morning routine almost one year ago and I'm still following today. The book is chock full of great tips, ideas and motivation thus the re-reading of it.
Another spiritual book I peruse when I need a pick-me-up is The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer. Again, another book I've had for several years and never fails to exhilarate me.
The fiction I'm reading is A Man Called Ove by Fredrik Bachman about a curmudgeon of a man and his attitude and musings on life and people. I've just begun it and am enjoying it.
The novel that I just finished is Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine by Gail Honeyman. Eleanor is a quirky woman and has been compared to a young, female version of Ove, the curmudgeon. She is quite a character and the book follows her journey. At times she was frustrating and naive but precious.
The fiction I read prior to this is Less by Andrew Greer. Another interesting and complicated individual. I loved the ending! (I'm a sucker for happy endings).
That is a peek into my reading at the moment. I'm always up for something new and interesting. My problem is, finding the time. Even a retired woman has difficulty finding time for reading - but that's another post!
xo
Wednesday, July 17, 2019
Challenges as We Age
I'm so glad I'm here on earth; healthy, alcohol-free, blessed with family and friends both near and far, a loving hubby and adorable dog and despite a few ageing issues, so blessed to be taking part in life.
So, what's up with the "ageing issues"? I love being active. I'm so into pickleball right now that it's become an obsession (almost). I'm playing at least three times a week with a wonderful group of women I met taking lessons. My body, however, is not always cooperative. Granted, it hasn't stopped me from playing, yet there are days my knees are screaming or the arthritis in my hands is acting up or my back is achy.
This is all part and parcel of advanced years. I have always been active and in my younger days I was a runner, almost on a daily basis. After many years of that the orthopedic doctor I consulted for knee pain recommended a knee replacement. Five years later, the other knee was replaced, as well. I felt 100% better and almost entirely pain-free. Now, however, I am experiencing a bit of pain - but it's been 12 years and 7 years since the surgeries, so not unexpected. The other issues are basically normal as we age - mostly arthritis.
One night I awoke from a dream and I was gasping for breath. I was dreaming that I was climbing a steep hill and my heart was beating rapidly and I was breathing hard from the effort. At first I was relieved that it was only a dream but them I realized that I actually couldn't catch my breath. Hmmm. Was that from the dream or was the dream a result of my having difficulty breathing?
My doctor recommended a sleep study that I was able to take at home over two nights and sure enough - I have mild sleep apnea. Now I am armed with a CPAP mask nightly. Is that ever attractive! Struggling a bit with it but adjusting. And grateful that there are such devices to help keep our breathing steady during sleep.
The above are minor compared to major diseases and various ailments that others are suffering from. And once again, I count myself among the very lucky and blessed.
xo
So, what's up with the "ageing issues"? I love being active. I'm so into pickleball right now that it's become an obsession (almost). I'm playing at least three times a week with a wonderful group of women I met taking lessons. My body, however, is not always cooperative. Granted, it hasn't stopped me from playing, yet there are days my knees are screaming or the arthritis in my hands is acting up or my back is achy.
This is all part and parcel of advanced years. I have always been active and in my younger days I was a runner, almost on a daily basis. After many years of that the orthopedic doctor I consulted for knee pain recommended a knee replacement. Five years later, the other knee was replaced, as well. I felt 100% better and almost entirely pain-free. Now, however, I am experiencing a bit of pain - but it's been 12 years and 7 years since the surgeries, so not unexpected. The other issues are basically normal as we age - mostly arthritis.
One night I awoke from a dream and I was gasping for breath. I was dreaming that I was climbing a steep hill and my heart was beating rapidly and I was breathing hard from the effort. At first I was relieved that it was only a dream but them I realized that I actually couldn't catch my breath. Hmmm. Was that from the dream or was the dream a result of my having difficulty breathing?
My doctor recommended a sleep study that I was able to take at home over two nights and sure enough - I have mild sleep apnea. Now I am armed with a CPAP mask nightly. Is that ever attractive! Struggling a bit with it but adjusting. And grateful that there are such devices to help keep our breathing steady during sleep.
The above are minor compared to major diseases and various ailments that others are suffering from. And once again, I count myself among the very lucky and blessed.
xo
Thursday, July 11, 2019
Focusing on Priorities
We all have activities we love and then there are those that we don't love but are necessary and finally; there are those pursuits that we once enjoyed but for whatever reason, have taken a back seat to our other interests.
This is what is going on with me right now. I'm reevaluating what is important to me, where I should put my focus and attention and what endeavors I should let go.
For almost five years I have been a volunteer at the Phoenix Art Museum. I love museums and this one is no exception. I love perusing the art that is in the permanent collection as well as the temporary exhibits that are on loan to the museum at various times of the year.
Of course, my volunteer role is not to view the art, although that is definitely encouraged, but my position is to interact with the patrons. We answer their questions and also suggest what exhibits they should not miss and interact when it seems appropriate and give them space when they appear to be enjoying the art on their own.
Since the end of last year I have added several more activities to my day. Something's gotta go!
Obviously, I'm writing this blog that I began December 30 of last year. It's just a little diddy but it does take up some brain waves and a bit of time. Also, at the end of 2018 I took up pickleball. My friend Shannon and I took lessons but I did not actively engage in the sport until Spring of this year and I am addicted! Oh my gosh, it is so much fun and great exercise as well. I am now playing several mornings a week. I have made wonderful new friends and am exercising in a way my body has not been accustomed to.
In addition to the above, I have brought creating art back into my life. Ten or so years ago I was painting and taking weekly lessons and created several decent pieces. I let that go when my life changed and I am happy to welcome that creative outlet back in. Rather than painting though, I am creating collages.
It's also important to me to stay in contact with my friends and to have an outing with at least one of them every week or so. All of these events take up a good portion of my time.
And last but not least there's time I want to spend with my husband (and my dog, Merlin). None of the above activities involve them so it's important to have special time together and that usually takes place from the dinner hour into the evening with snippets of time caught during the day. Phew, life is busy but wonderful.
xo
This is what is going on with me right now. I'm reevaluating what is important to me, where I should put my focus and attention and what endeavors I should let go.
For almost five years I have been a volunteer at the Phoenix Art Museum. I love museums and this one is no exception. I love perusing the art that is in the permanent collection as well as the temporary exhibits that are on loan to the museum at various times of the year.
Of course, my volunteer role is not to view the art, although that is definitely encouraged, but my position is to interact with the patrons. We answer their questions and also suggest what exhibits they should not miss and interact when it seems appropriate and give them space when they appear to be enjoying the art on their own.
Since the end of last year I have added several more activities to my day. Something's gotta go!
Obviously, I'm writing this blog that I began December 30 of last year. It's just a little diddy but it does take up some brain waves and a bit of time. Also, at the end of 2018 I took up pickleball. My friend Shannon and I took lessons but I did not actively engage in the sport until Spring of this year and I am addicted! Oh my gosh, it is so much fun and great exercise as well. I am now playing several mornings a week. I have made wonderful new friends and am exercising in a way my body has not been accustomed to.
In addition to the above, I have brought creating art back into my life. Ten or so years ago I was painting and taking weekly lessons and created several decent pieces. I let that go when my life changed and I am happy to welcome that creative outlet back in. Rather than painting though, I am creating collages.
It's also important to me to stay in contact with my friends and to have an outing with at least one of them every week or so. All of these events take up a good portion of my time.
And last but not least there's time I want to spend with my husband (and my dog, Merlin). None of the above activities involve them so it's important to have special time together and that usually takes place from the dinner hour into the evening with snippets of time caught during the day. Phew, life is busy but wonderful.
xo
Friday, July 5, 2019
What Matters
I was planning on writing about my vacation to New Jersey and New York that was wonderful. New York City is always exciting especially when one gets to go to a musical. We saw a remake of "Kiss Me Kate". As expected, it was great. The way these actors can sing and dance (at the same time, yet!) is astounding. And the city always fascinates. Even though I grew up nearby just across the Hudson River in N.J.; visiting Manhattan is always a treat.
However, my takeaway from this vacation was how much I enjoy being with the people I care about. This is more important than sightseeing, or visiting museums, landmarks, etc. This is not surprising as I always appreciate my friends and family but living clear across the country makes my time with them even more precious.
We were there for a week and stayed with my husband's younger sister, Terry, in the house they all grew up in. Terry is 6 years younger than Bill and me and I adore her. She is one of the kindest, most loving and generous people I know. It's so easy and relaxing staying with her. Bill's younger brother lives a few blocks away and we saw him several times and he is a sweet man, a loving father, grandfather and uncle. His older sister, Rosemary lives in the next town, where I grew up and we spent quite a bit of time with her. She and her husband generously threw a party for us and we were able to spend time with nieces, their husbands and many great nieces and nephews. We had a wonderful time visiting and hearing the latest news.
My sister and my nephew and his wife and children live in nearby New York state - about 45 minutes away. We spent the afternoon with them dining at a lovely restaurant on the Hudson River and catching up on the latest. My nephew and his wife were expecting their third child and in fact - she gave birth a few days ago to a girl - her other two being boys.
As I mentioned in previous posts, Bill and I were high school sweethearts and dated for over three years. We parted and went on to marry others and have children, divorce and as fate would have it - came back together 50 years later and are now married.
That, of course means, his siblings were in my life way back then and to have them once again in my life is a joy. I loved them 50 years ago and I love and appreciate them even more now. We have a connection that runs deep and we have a ball reminiscing about our times at the beach and other adventures we had as teens.
We also spent time with friends and every minute with them was a blast.
Of course, we all have traveled diverse roads and our life experiences have shaped who we are today and I'm sure we have many differences yet we have a bond that blessedly makes our time together lovely and loving.
Dear friends and family - that's what makes life a delight!
xo
However, my takeaway from this vacation was how much I enjoy being with the people I care about. This is more important than sightseeing, or visiting museums, landmarks, etc. This is not surprising as I always appreciate my friends and family but living clear across the country makes my time with them even more precious.
We were there for a week and stayed with my husband's younger sister, Terry, in the house they all grew up in. Terry is 6 years younger than Bill and me and I adore her. She is one of the kindest, most loving and generous people I know. It's so easy and relaxing staying with her. Bill's younger brother lives a few blocks away and we saw him several times and he is a sweet man, a loving father, grandfather and uncle. His older sister, Rosemary lives in the next town, where I grew up and we spent quite a bit of time with her. She and her husband generously threw a party for us and we were able to spend time with nieces, their husbands and many great nieces and nephews. We had a wonderful time visiting and hearing the latest news.
My sister and my nephew and his wife and children live in nearby New York state - about 45 minutes away. We spent the afternoon with them dining at a lovely restaurant on the Hudson River and catching up on the latest. My nephew and his wife were expecting their third child and in fact - she gave birth a few days ago to a girl - her other two being boys.
As I mentioned in previous posts, Bill and I were high school sweethearts and dated for over three years. We parted and went on to marry others and have children, divorce and as fate would have it - came back together 50 years later and are now married.
That, of course means, his siblings were in my life way back then and to have them once again in my life is a joy. I loved them 50 years ago and I love and appreciate them even more now. We have a connection that runs deep and we have a ball reminiscing about our times at the beach and other adventures we had as teens.
We also spent time with friends and every minute with them was a blast.
Of course, we all have traveled diverse roads and our life experiences have shaped who we are today and I'm sure we have many differences yet we have a bond that blessedly makes our time together lovely and loving.
Dear friends and family - that's what makes life a delight!
xo
Thursday, June 27, 2019
Summer Trips
One of my summer trips this year is over - my visit to New Jersey and New York. I'm in the middle of my second trip - to Marin County, CA so I'll begin this post by telling you a little about this one.
I lived in Marin for over 40 years moving here from N.J. in 1975. I was married here and raised my two sons here so my connections run deep.
I moved to Arizona to be with my current husband 6 years ago and maintain an apartment here. It is where I stay when I return to visit friends and family and has become my haven to recharge, rest and renew and I know I am blessed to have this place!
My husband was planning to come with me for a few days to visit friends and then drive back to AZ alone with me staying on for a few more days and then flying home. However, he did not feel up to two 12 hour drives. I can't say I blame him. And, I was a little disappointed, but also must admit that I am mostly happy to have this extra time alone here.
I spent my first full day here with my son, Nick. We went to the deYoung Museum to see the final weekend of the Gauguin exhibit. It wasn't large but very lovely, showcasing his art from his time in Paris, Copenhagen and finally in Tahiti. Both of us enjoy visiting museums and it's so nice to share this interest with him.
Nick and I had lunch together on Geary St. in San Francisco near his apartment that lies between the Tenderloin and the lovely neighborhood of Nob Hill, abundance abutting homelessness.
There was a pizza box right outside the window where we sat in the restaurant and within the first 15 minutes of being seated no less than 5 people stopped to open the box. The first one scored a slice of pizza. Sadly, the remaining 4 people continued on their way, hungry. It's heartbreaking to see this happening and I do my part to make a difference yet there is so much yet there is so much that needs to be done. But, this post is not going to address that.
Always when I visit Marin my focus is to see my son, my sister and my friends. I have accomplished most of that and will see two more friends tomorrow before returning to AZ on Saturday.
I love seeing my friends and catching up on their lives - discussing topics that we may not have time for when we chat on the phone between visits. Plus, eye to eye contact is so rewarding - that and seeing their beautiful, smiling faces.
The other thing I love to do when I visit is simply hiking the scenic trails taking in the views of the bay or Mt. Tam or walking the neighborhoods, enjoying the San Francisco skyline sparkling in the sun.
I love being here and I love being in Arizona as well. How lucky can one person get?
Since I did go on a bit, I will write about my visit to New York/New Jersey in my next post.
xo
I lived in Marin for over 40 years moving here from N.J. in 1975. I was married here and raised my two sons here so my connections run deep.
I moved to Arizona to be with my current husband 6 years ago and maintain an apartment here. It is where I stay when I return to visit friends and family and has become my haven to recharge, rest and renew and I know I am blessed to have this place!
My husband was planning to come with me for a few days to visit friends and then drive back to AZ alone with me staying on for a few more days and then flying home. However, he did not feel up to two 12 hour drives. I can't say I blame him. And, I was a little disappointed, but also must admit that I am mostly happy to have this extra time alone here.
I spent my first full day here with my son, Nick. We went to the deYoung Museum to see the final weekend of the Gauguin exhibit. It wasn't large but very lovely, showcasing his art from his time in Paris, Copenhagen and finally in Tahiti. Both of us enjoy visiting museums and it's so nice to share this interest with him.
Nick and I had lunch together on Geary St. in San Francisco near his apartment that lies between the Tenderloin and the lovely neighborhood of Nob Hill, abundance abutting homelessness.
There was a pizza box right outside the window where we sat in the restaurant and within the first 15 minutes of being seated no less than 5 people stopped to open the box. The first one scored a slice of pizza. Sadly, the remaining 4 people continued on their way, hungry. It's heartbreaking to see this happening and I do my part to make a difference yet there is so much yet there is so much that needs to be done. But, this post is not going to address that.
Always when I visit Marin my focus is to see my son, my sister and my friends. I have accomplished most of that and will see two more friends tomorrow before returning to AZ on Saturday.
I love seeing my friends and catching up on their lives - discussing topics that we may not have time for when we chat on the phone between visits. Plus, eye to eye contact is so rewarding - that and seeing their beautiful, smiling faces.
The other thing I love to do when I visit is simply hiking the scenic trails taking in the views of the bay or Mt. Tam or walking the neighborhoods, enjoying the San Francisco skyline sparkling in the sun.
I love being here and I love being in Arizona as well. How lucky can one person get?
Since I did go on a bit, I will write about my visit to New York/New Jersey in my next post.
xo
Thursday, June 20, 2019
Socializing
There was a time I enjoyed having friends over for dinner, usually 3-4 couples preceded by appetizers and cocktails. I enjoyed the entire process: from planning the food, to the guest list, deciding on the table setting, getting the house in order and deciding what to wear.
My husband's heritage is half Irish and one of the ways he enjoys entertaining friends is with a St. Patrick's Day dinner of corned beef and cabbage, boiled potatoes, followed by my homemade strawberry cheesecake. Of course various appetizers and cocktails are part of the festivities.
This year however, our usual group was unable to attend due to family illness so we had a little celebration just the two of us.
Another big celebration we have annually is Christmas Eve. I have hosted a dinner for as long as I can remember - long before Bill and I were together, however, the past two years he and I stayed in Arizona rather than traveling to California for the Christmas holidays, so again, it was just the two of us for our celebration.
Life changes routines and customs, celebrations change along with it.
I must say, that even though these two festive events did not happen in the recent past is not a reason to not more forward and have a dinner party! I think I have simply gotten comfortable just the two of us every night and I have not taken the initiative to organize a little party.
We also have taken to going out to meet friends, both as a couple and individually. I know for me, it is a great way to catch up - getting together for lunch and a chat.
Obviously, I have been thinking about this or I wouldn't be writing about it, so I am making a commitment to have a party in the very near future, most likely in July (as I'm going to CA on Friday for a week and it will be July when I return).
Even though a party takes time and planning, it is also very rewarding and satisfying to host a dinner and entertain our friends.
I'll report back about this in a (not too distant) future post.
Meanwhile, I'd love to hear about your entertaining events.
xo
My husband's heritage is half Irish and one of the ways he enjoys entertaining friends is with a St. Patrick's Day dinner of corned beef and cabbage, boiled potatoes, followed by my homemade strawberry cheesecake. Of course various appetizers and cocktails are part of the festivities.
This year however, our usual group was unable to attend due to family illness so we had a little celebration just the two of us.
Another big celebration we have annually is Christmas Eve. I have hosted a dinner for as long as I can remember - long before Bill and I were together, however, the past two years he and I stayed in Arizona rather than traveling to California for the Christmas holidays, so again, it was just the two of us for our celebration.
Life changes routines and customs, celebrations change along with it.
I must say, that even though these two festive events did not happen in the recent past is not a reason to not more forward and have a dinner party! I think I have simply gotten comfortable just the two of us every night and I have not taken the initiative to organize a little party.
We also have taken to going out to meet friends, both as a couple and individually. I know for me, it is a great way to catch up - getting together for lunch and a chat.
Obviously, I have been thinking about this or I wouldn't be writing about it, so I am making a commitment to have a party in the very near future, most likely in July (as I'm going to CA on Friday for a week and it will be July when I return).
Even though a party takes time and planning, it is also very rewarding and satisfying to host a dinner and entertain our friends.
I'll report back about this in a (not too distant) future post.
Meanwhile, I'd love to hear about your entertaining events.
xo
Thursday, June 13, 2019
Volunteering
I like to volunteer. It gives me a feeling a satisfaction; of giving a little back as I have been so blessed.
I'm not a serious, big time volunteer - building houses in third world countries, or feeding the hungry in poverty stricken places, but a medium-level giver/helper/do-gooder.
When my boys were in grammar school I volunteered by helping out at end of the year parties by baking cookies or helping the teacher grade papers during the school year or helping to raise money with our PTA. Little things that I'm sure helped but were not world changing.
When my sons no longer appreciated my presence at school, I moved on looking for other opportunities.
My next offering was at the Marine Mammal Center in Sausalito, CA. I've always loved the ocean so why not do a good deed while enjoying the beautiful views of the Pacific?
My duties there were tending to the baby harbor seals. Oh my these little guys were so cute! Most were newborns deserted by their moms because humans interfered while they were left by their moms while out hunting for their dinner. The staff brewed up a gruel that consisted of pureed salmon mixed with some type of liquid (rather foul smelling) so that it could be fed to these little rascals by bottle. That was fun. What wasn't such fun was another assignment of cleaning out their pens/cages. Again, not such a pleasant smelling job. But hey, I was helping these little guys and the Mammal Center could do more meaningful things with their funds rather than pay staff to do this job.
I had to quit the Mammal Center after knee surgery and my next volunteer opportunity was with To Celebrate Life, a breast cancer foundation that provides support for underserved breast cancer patients.
My focus was to help raise money for the foundation by doing various tasks during the six months or so leading up to the grand gala in September of each year.
In the beginning I concentrated on gathering donations from various local businesses for the silent auction. I did that for several years. The last year or so I added working at the gala event by admitting guests by collecting their tickets. It was fun greeting these generous folks who paid upwards of $250 each for the dinner and fashion show - the models for the show being breast cancer survivors. Plus, I was able to watch the fashion show from the sidelines. So touching to see these women, and occasionally - a man, strut down the catwalk wearing clothes donated by local boutiques and designers. The work I did for this organization was truly rewarding.
After my move to Arizona, I looked for another volunteer opportunity and found one at the Phoenix Art Museum. It is a mid-size venue and filled with beautiful art. I never seem to get my fill of art! My position there is an ambassador of sorts. I mingle with patrons answering their questions and making suggestions of exhibits not to be missed. I am there once a week for 2-2.5 hours and it is enjoyable.
Still, I know there is so much yet to do in the world of volunteers and I am considering another volunteer option, though I'm not sure exactly what it will be. I would like to feel that I am making a bigger contribution than I do at the museum. Again, I'm not looking to save the world, just to make it a little bit sweeter for someone.
I will explore this further and report back!
I'm not a serious, big time volunteer - building houses in third world countries, or feeding the hungry in poverty stricken places, but a medium-level giver/helper/do-gooder.
When my boys were in grammar school I volunteered by helping out at end of the year parties by baking cookies or helping the teacher grade papers during the school year or helping to raise money with our PTA. Little things that I'm sure helped but were not world changing.
When my sons no longer appreciated my presence at school, I moved on looking for other opportunities.
My next offering was at the Marine Mammal Center in Sausalito, CA. I've always loved the ocean so why not do a good deed while enjoying the beautiful views of the Pacific?
My duties there were tending to the baby harbor seals. Oh my these little guys were so cute! Most were newborns deserted by their moms because humans interfered while they were left by their moms while out hunting for their dinner. The staff brewed up a gruel that consisted of pureed salmon mixed with some type of liquid (rather foul smelling) so that it could be fed to these little rascals by bottle. That was fun. What wasn't such fun was another assignment of cleaning out their pens/cages. Again, not such a pleasant smelling job. But hey, I was helping these little guys and the Mammal Center could do more meaningful things with their funds rather than pay staff to do this job.
I had to quit the Mammal Center after knee surgery and my next volunteer opportunity was with To Celebrate Life, a breast cancer foundation that provides support for underserved breast cancer patients.
My focus was to help raise money for the foundation by doing various tasks during the six months or so leading up to the grand gala in September of each year.
In the beginning I concentrated on gathering donations from various local businesses for the silent auction. I did that for several years. The last year or so I added working at the gala event by admitting guests by collecting their tickets. It was fun greeting these generous folks who paid upwards of $250 each for the dinner and fashion show - the models for the show being breast cancer survivors. Plus, I was able to watch the fashion show from the sidelines. So touching to see these women, and occasionally - a man, strut down the catwalk wearing clothes donated by local boutiques and designers. The work I did for this organization was truly rewarding.
After my move to Arizona, I looked for another volunteer opportunity and found one at the Phoenix Art Museum. It is a mid-size venue and filled with beautiful art. I never seem to get my fill of art! My position there is an ambassador of sorts. I mingle with patrons answering their questions and making suggestions of exhibits not to be missed. I am there once a week for 2-2.5 hours and it is enjoyable.
Still, I know there is so much yet to do in the world of volunteers and I am considering another volunteer option, though I'm not sure exactly what it will be. I would like to feel that I am making a bigger contribution than I do at the museum. Again, I'm not looking to save the world, just to make it a little bit sweeter for someone.
I will explore this further and report back!
Sunday, June 9, 2019
Health
As we age we certainly may face more health issues. After all, think of the years we've accumulated and what we've consumed, breathed in, and put our bodies through in the name of fitness, play or perhaps, even abuse.
Regarding the abuse topic; there was a time when medical opinions insisted wine was good for us. When I gave birth to my first son, my obstetrician suggested I order a glass of red wine with my dinner as it helps increase the milk my breasts would produce. Hello! I wanted to nurse my baby not anesthetize him. I was too uninformed and naive to know better even though my intuition told me this seemed crazy, so I went along. Now the latest data is saying that alcohol in any amount is harmful to the body. Yes, it may help slightly in preventing heart attacks, however, the myriad diseases it has now been attributed to far outweigh any benefits.
And for more abuse - there's smoking. Many of us indulged in this awful habit as it was considered very cool when we were young. I'm praying I've sidestepped the ravages that smoking can inflict on one's body. I've been off those disgusting things for 30 years now.
And I've had my share of junk food, though, mostly I have always eaten healthily and definitely for the past 20 years or so I have been very mindful of the foods I put into my mouth knowing it has a direct effect on my energy, appearance and health.
I exercise 6 days a week, sleep an average of 7 hours a night, drink plenty of water, meditate every morning and spend time with the hubby and friends. I believe that covers most of the bases for a healthy life.
I'm doing what I can to stay healthy as I age and thus far, other than Irritable Bowel Syndrome, that I've had since my forties, I do not have any health issues nor am I on any medication. Whoo hoo! I think I'm doing pretty good.
What are you dong to stay healthy as you age?
xo
Regarding the abuse topic; there was a time when medical opinions insisted wine was good for us. When I gave birth to my first son, my obstetrician suggested I order a glass of red wine with my dinner as it helps increase the milk my breasts would produce. Hello! I wanted to nurse my baby not anesthetize him. I was too uninformed and naive to know better even though my intuition told me this seemed crazy, so I went along. Now the latest data is saying that alcohol in any amount is harmful to the body. Yes, it may help slightly in preventing heart attacks, however, the myriad diseases it has now been attributed to far outweigh any benefits.
And for more abuse - there's smoking. Many of us indulged in this awful habit as it was considered very cool when we were young. I'm praying I've sidestepped the ravages that smoking can inflict on one's body. I've been off those disgusting things for 30 years now.
And I've had my share of junk food, though, mostly I have always eaten healthily and definitely for the past 20 years or so I have been very mindful of the foods I put into my mouth knowing it has a direct effect on my energy, appearance and health.
I exercise 6 days a week, sleep an average of 7 hours a night, drink plenty of water, meditate every morning and spend time with the hubby and friends. I believe that covers most of the bases for a healthy life.
I'm doing what I can to stay healthy as I age and thus far, other than Irritable Bowel Syndrome, that I've had since my forties, I do not have any health issues nor am I on any medication. Whoo hoo! I think I'm doing pretty good.
What are you dong to stay healthy as you age?
xo
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