I'm not saying resolutions aren't necessary; however, let's take a different view.
I'm a New Year's Resolutions maker. I always have been, for as long as I can remember.
I look forward to it. It seems like a way to wipe the slate clean of last year's boo-boos and start fresh.
Sure, I plan to accomplish a few things, such as new granite countertops for our bathrooms, fresh paint, and a new shower. I procrastinated on these during Covid.
There are a few personal intentions as well — gaining a level in my pickleball rating and a larger readership here on this blog.
However, is there a better idea?
I received an email from Marie Forleo, entrepreneur and author of Everything is Figureoutable. I love her philosophy — yes, everything is indeed figure outable — just don't give up.
Her email suggested that instead of setting goals for 2022, we ask ourselves the following three questions:
- What did you do, create or experience that you're really proud of?
- What mistakes did you make that taught you something? What lessons did you learn that you can leverage?
- What's one limiting story you're ready to let go of before the New Year?
I plan to give these questions deep thought and see what I arrive at. I've already intuitively decided on my answers. However, I want to explore further and see what else appears in my heart and mind.
I have written about how we're wired NOT to congratulate ourselves for our victories — big or small. Now is the time to revisit this area. Of course, you've had wins — time to acknowledge them.
Mistakes — who me? Of course. Time to review them, as well, and see what can we learn from them. This is not a reason to beat ourselves up but to learn from them.
Have you carried an item or two from the previous year's goal list into the next year? Perhaps it's time to re-think these goals. Could it be that it no longer fits you or the life you've created?
What about letting go of resentment, anger, and shame you've been lugging around for way too long?
Just as cleaning out a closet allows fresh goodies to enter — so does clearing out old goals and angst that is no longer valid today. Let's make way for new and meaningful intentions.
I must drop my waistline ideal! If I haven't managed to achieve it in the past five years — adios. Ain't going to happen.
"It’s not till you let go of something that you see how it's been holding you back." -Marie Forleo.
What do you think about goals? Do you still plan on setting some? Goals are not a bad thing. They're a way of creating and achieving dreams and visions — and I say go for it.
However, keep them reasonable and attainable and vital to your happiness. Otherwise, what's the point?
Wishing you a healthy, happy, and blessed 2022.
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